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Zhaxilang plus teacher: Case of how to train the mind

Tibetan Master 2018-01-23

One afternoon, while experimenting with what Jiava Rinpoche said, "Looking at the enemy in a different perspective", I encountered another stumbling block.To complete this book, I took some courses hosted by Kawa Rinpo on the East Coast.When I got home, I took a direct flight to Phoenix.As usual, I chose a seat on the aisle.Although I had just finished the spiritual training course, I was still not in a good mood when I took the stuffed flight.Then I found that my seat was missed, and I was squeezed into the center like a sandwich ──On the left was a big man who kept invading my seat handle with his thick arms.On the right is a middle-aged woman. As soon as I saw her, I decided not to like her because she occupied my aisle seat.Some of her habits also disturbed me ──Her voice was too sharp and her attitude was a little arrogant.Just after the plane took off, she kept talking to a man sitting in front of her.Later I found out that this man was her husband, so I pretended to be attentive to make a suggestion of changing seats, but they refused. ──Both of them were going to sit by the aisle.I felt even more angry.It took me five hours to squeeze with this woman, which was so unbearable.

When I learned that I was furious about a woman I didn't know at all, I knew I had to practice looking at things from a different perspective. ──Did she remind me of past memories? Some of the unresolved hatred between me and my mother? I tried hard to interrogate myself, but I couldn't find any clues ──I just can't find out what similarities she has to those I've known in the past?

Then I realized that this was the best opportunity to exercise patience.So I began to imagine that this enemy sitting on the aisle was my rare benefactor, and she wanted to teach me how to be tolerant and patient.I understand this should be something that can be done easily ──After all, this is just a small trouble. I just met this woman, and she didn't deliberately want to hurt me.But twenty minutes later, I gave up ──She still has been annoying me.During the rest of the voyage, I had to pass it in a hurry.I looked at one of her arms invading my seat handle with an unhappy look. I simply hated her to the extreme! When her hand appeared in front of me, I began to stare at her thumb and think: Do I hate this thumb? No.That's just a thumb.Not special at all.Then I stared at her eyes and thought: Do I really hate these eyes? Yes. ﹝Of course there is no reason, it's just hatred. ﹞I looked at it more carefully.Do I hate this pupil? No! Do I hate that cornea, iris, sclera? No! Do I really hate those eyes? I have to admit that I don’t hate it anymore.I felt that I was making some progress.I started looking at my finger joints, fingers, jaws, and elbows.I was surprised to find that there were some things in this woman that I didn't hate.Pay attention to small details and avoid over-generalization, which will cause subtle changes in our hearts.Such a change tear opens the curtain of my prejudice, allowing me to see that she is just an ordinary person.With this understanding, she just turned to talk to me.I don't remember what we said ──It was just a gossip, but when the plane stopped, my anger and hatred had disappeared.Although she is not my good friend, she is no longer the horrible old woman who takes up seats in the aisle. ──She is just a person, an ordinary person like me, just trying to live a better life.

2024-02-05 18:07
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