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My gains in Level 3 study

Bodhi Academy 2018-02-09

In a blink of an eye, I have been joining the third-level practice for a year and a half, and my mind and nature are also changing during this period.The biggest gain comes from the transformation of family and interpersonal relationships.

Because I have been educated since childhood, "I have a special attachment to reputation because of the influence of people leaving their names and the geese passing by.Before studying Buddhism, I could hardly see any advantages of my lover. He was a middle school teacher. He was honest and willing to work hard in the unit, never competed or robbed. He was not his turn to do anything good. He had never been reused and was evaluated later than others.Therefore, I always complain and use words to violently hurt his self-esteem, and there is no warmth at home.

Not only at home, but in the company before.Because I received some honors in the lecture, while enjoying the flowers and applause, I was also jealous and suppressed by my superiors. I was so distressed that I couldn't laugh anymore and felt that life was really hard.I work seriously and have a rush. If others don’t act according to the “routines” I set, I will be very angry and speak out.

After entering the third level of practice, I realized that these troubles of mine were all caused by my sense of importance, desire to dominate and superiority, and were eroded by the three poisons of greed, anger, and ignorance.These are not their problems, mainly mine.I am dissatisfied when my lover cannot gain the reputation I expect; I am angry when others are different from their own ideas and style of doing things.In fact, there is no so-called right or wrong between me and them. The so-called right or wrong are all subjective judgments in my heart.Buddhism tells us that we can be happy by being content and grateful, but I used to go against happiness.

With these transformed concepts obtained from my practice and study, I went to see my lover again and found that some of my dissatisfaction with him became his advantages.Now I am gradually taking external material fame and fortune indifferently, and actively cultivating blessings will no longer worry about gains and losses.Buddhism tells us that "work hard on the cause and follow the fate of the result."The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things.My lover is a mortal and has troubles. Once he complained to me, and it was becoming more and more difficult for children to manage now. After a class, my voice was hoarse and exhausted.I told him that it was because he had an opposite mood with the students in his heart, so he labeled them as "disobedient" and "naughty".You try to tear off those "labels, treat them as your own children, and communicate with them in a gentle language and appreciation perspective, and maybe the effect will be different.My lover gave me a thumbs up and called me a virtuous man, the true school of education in the academy! From then on, he saw that the children became more and more close and cute, and the children also loved to listen to his classes.Last year he was recommended as the senior branch ***,I was lucky enough to participate in the West Garden Retreat Camp during National Day.

My daughter is also in Bodhi Academy, in the same class as me, and she privately teased her as my "little secret" because I am not good at seeing her and I don't know how to use the computer. Her joining gave me confidence to continue learning.Family is the cell and cornerstone of society. Nowadays, the family is harmonious, calm, healthy, happy, and happiness is within reach.

Level 3 practice advocates, rejoice in others' merits, review one's own shortcomings, and make doing things a practice.My heart and behavior have also been greatly improved, and my interpersonal relationships have become more and more harmonious.Now I am smiling all day long, and my neighbors ask me, why are you happy every day? Are you not worried? I said that I have to ask for troubles by myself.The thoughts change, the sky is wide and the earth is wide.A handful of salt is salty in a cup, but it becomes light in the world. There is still so much salt, the capacity is large, the amount is large, the blessing is great! The road on Bodhi Avenue is getting wider and wider, because I see light and hope!

2024-02-05 18:08
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